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Hey all!

So I know what’s on your mind right now is, “Hmmm, all this one na to carry take catch person attention o.”  But I tell you that you are actually far from the truth with respect to this.

Multiple part alert! – Trust me, after reading this, you’ll surely love to read my other friend’s post on Love and Masturbation. Just watch out for the rest of the series next week!

So let’s get to this – LOVE, SEX, MASTURBATION AND SALVATION – Part 1

You see, I like to believe that I love Love. No! I am indeed passionate about Love. I used to almost refer to myself as a sex addict; masturbation was the one that stayed with me, holding it down when I intentionally let go of sex. Salvation was the one and only friend that held me in her hands, rocking my yet troubled and confused life to a soothing and reassuring rest.

There were times when I didn’t really have everything sorted out in my head and I would then go back to S&M and vindicate myself about being human. But what would then happen is that I would feel so much guilt that I had told God severally “You know what? Kukuma kill me once I get my head straight.”

I was literally tired of the one step forward and twenty steps backward feeling that would taunt me each time I had settled my weak body’s craving for bodily-touchy-enjoyment. In all of this, I would still hear God say to me the most ‘ridiculous thing’ as I had then classified it:

“My grace is sufficient for you…for [My] power is being perfected… in [your] weakness.”

I would later come to understand this verse of the scripture that is chilling in 2 Corinthians 12:9 and would read it often. I am always so amazed by God’s love. His grace was still sufficient for me despite my love for playing and sustaining my ‘away runs’. I will tell you what this did to and for me: it busted my brain ni! – I could not comprehend it. So I had made up my mind to boost in my weakness and to confess His strength over my weakness. It worked. It didn’t happen overnight, but it worked.

It’s surprising for my type of person when I look back. I can say today that the last time I had indulged myself in ‘S’ was as far back as July 2013. As for ‘M’, I’m still counting down to 365 days.

I know there are so many schools of thought about love, sex and masturbation – this is where you realize that Salvation is rarely ever mentioned when this list comes up; but I’m bringing it up today.

Focus! Follow me – I’m going somewhere.  

After reading through my testimony, you probably might then ask yourself “How did he make it out this far?” The answer to that question is Salvation!

In John 3:16, the Bible says

“For God so loved the world that He sent His only begotten son, that whoever believes in Him Shall not perish but will have everlasting life…”

I don’t know how many of you had toys as kids but I was privileged to have quite a couple of them and what caught my fancy was how my toy aeroplane would move just by my pressing a remote control. I had later realized that the only reason why this was possible was because two small things called ‘batteries‘ had been made to power the remote control which in turn would then power my aeroplane to move and eventually take off the ground.

So when God had created man, he had wired a special battery to help bring man to a place of purpose, fullness, and glory – Salvation.

How does it work?

Salvation means to be delivered, saved or to be redeemed. For this to happen, it means that we must have been hooked or stuck somewhere or in something we could not help ourselves from.

It is only by God’s grace that we can be saved and this can only happen when we acknowledge and believe in Jesus Christ (the son of God) to take us by the hand to a place of total surrender and trust in Him. This is the point where you are called to be ‘born again’ – to live your life in the likeness and knowledge of Jesus. To start a new journey in life where you get to shed away your unpleasant past.

How is this Possible?

Salvation, unlike the batteries for our toy aeroplanes, is God’s gift of grace to us. The book of Ephesians 2:8 puts it this way

“For it is by grace you have been saved, through faith – and this is not from yourselves, it is a gift from God.”

Grace is God’s love in action.

You may feel like I did, that you are not deserving of His grace, but God loves us so much that He continues to save us.

God’s grace is enough; it is all that you need.

His strength comes into you in your weakness.

All you have to do is just let Jesus Christ take over – of that situation that makes you cry, those moments and things that make you hate yourself, that dark part of your life you can’t share with anyone, of those addictions that won’t let go – He took care of mine, He’ll do the same for you.

Please kindly say these words of prayer with me:

Lord Jesus, I surrender all of me to you today. I believe that you are the Son of God, and that you can forgive me of all of my sins. Come into my life and be the Lord over the affairs of my life. Please break every cycle of addictions I have struggled with. In Jesus name I pray, Amen!


All your questions and comments are welcome.

I cannot promise you a free drink if you are the first to comment (no shade intended) but I can promise to always say a word of prayer for you – trust me, its way better than a free drink! Lol



Columnist Bio 
KLEB_1905 is an old-young human specie; always particular about sharing the wild imaginative 
characters in his head.  
He has seen God! 
He is a transactional lawyer, part time speaker, writer and a thespian. He’s an arts-lover, 
nature-lover, and a ‘love’ addict. He thinks he likes making friends but people say he is a 
glorified introvert – he knows this is not true, in doubt?? Ask IBK!


  1. oh wow your testimony is inspiring but then you have rightly said God’s grace is all we need. You have opened my eyes to see a different perspective on the verse “For it is by grace you have been saved, through faith – and this is not from yourselves, it is a gift from God.” This is inspiring. anticipating the next post. I enjoyed this.

  2. you made a conscious effort to stop the addiction. you had a goal, you were deligent and persistent. This should be clearly written for shallow readers..

    1. I actually agree that it should be stated that one also has to consciously make the effort. A lot of people go with the excuse “I have not reached that level of grace” to excuse their disobedience.

    2. God rewards dilligence. He says, seeth a man dilligent in his ways he will stand before kings and not mean (Average) men – Prov 22v29.

  3. It’s amazing how God loves us out of our weaknesses into His strength. He is so kind and gracious. Thanks for reminding me again of God’s perfect and unconditional love. Shalom!

  4. To be honest, seeing love, sex, masturbation and salvation put side by side spiked my curiosity lol but it was worth the read. I am not convinced that the title wasn’t to attract attention (I am sure that was one of the objectives).

  5. I have not tired of reading this. It is so relatable. This is my favorite paragraph: “All you have to do is just let Jesus Christ take over – of that situation that makes you cry, those moments and things that make you hate yourself, that dark part of your life you can’t share with anyone, of those addictions that won’t let go – He took care of mine, He’ll do the same for you.”

    Funny how we keep certain areas of our lives away from God…a God that sees all. Who are we kidding? We let Shame act as a barrier.

    All we need to do is confess our sins, he is able and just to forgive. The true sign of repentance however is turning away from the sin not just now but the next time, and the next until we are free from that sin. We are able to do so by his strength.

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