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“Own your journey”. – Caleb Ekpenyong

In your journey, expect that you’ll not always meet the many expectations you’ve placed on yourself; not to talk about the ones set by the many people around you.

The society will always set a pace and standard at which you should grow, what you should eat, how you should dress, the people you should hang out with, how to address yourself – ‘millennial, old school, dumb fashion, and new school’ – this list is not exhaustive.

Life has taught me that I have a choice, to either mourn my inability to meet up to this, or breathe, exhale, and take life one step at a time. I can take charge of my life – own my journey, but it will be sweetened by some failure(s) spice.

When you do not meet up to the pace and standards set by the society, your family and friends, you call yourself a failure. This is your definition of failure. You consciously put yourself on a pedestal for the society to own and judge you. They tell you what a failure you are and how you could have done better – how your best is not good enough. Notice how your name switches from ‘fool’ to ‘stupid’, and from ‘dumb’ to ‘failure’.


You are not any of the name switches that come with the ‘failure brand’. In the middle of it all, I was lost in shame and pain but the one thing that would then help me through it was Love, Faith and Hope.

I never saw them coming. I refused to acknowledge or let them in but they had their way round my stiff-necked stake out. It was the kind words and the silly jocularly things that made me smile and laugh – they had found their way – they called it ‘Love’.

The warm hugs counted for a lot. The holding of hands and the tears shared went a long way. The whispered stories of Abraham Lincoln, Steve Harris and many others birthed ‘faith’ and strung ‘hope’ in line for a regenerated mind that was paralysed and plagued by negativity. The positive buzz from certain people comprising of family, friends and total strangers had put me on the path of bravery to try walking on waters again.

The fervency in prayers and seeking to build a relationship with an Immortal being consumed my entirety. My former acquaintances – doubts and fear – begged and threatened to deal with me if I ever cut off my allegiance to them.

It was time to move on. To believe in the process; because success will always be borne out of failure.  

Come out of hiding. Wear your ‘cape’ of tribulation with faith, love…

and hope.


Columnist Bio 
KLEB_1905 is an old-young human specie; always particular about sharing the wild imaginative 
characters in his head.  
He has seen God! 
He is a transactional lawyer, part time speaker, writer and a thespian. He’s an arts-lover, 
nature-lover, and a ‘love’ addict. He thinks he likes making friends but people say he is a 
glorified introvert – he knows this is not true, in doubt?? Ask IBK!


  1. Good talk … this scripture readily come to mind: Prov 3:5-7 “Trust in and rely confidently on the LORD with all your heart And do not rely on your own insight or understanding. In all your ways know and acknowledge and recognize Him, And He will make your paths straight and smooth [removing obstacles that block your way]. Do not be wise in your own eyes; Fear the LORD [with reverent awe and obedience] and turn [entirely] away from evil.”
    ‭‭PROVERBS‬ ‭3:5-7‬ ‭AMP‬‬

  2. Thank you for your thoughtful contribution. Indeed all we have to do is trust wholly in God like you’ve rightly pointed out here. I understand that it may be difficult but in the end, He is all that we need in these times, for we know what the future holds for us.

    1. Yes o T…Cool – I know right? Some people don’t think so. But I pray that they will in time know otherwise.
      Thank you for reading.

  3. I totally agree, the society has made it difficult to actually see success when there is something worth acknowledging as success because of the standards set by the society (Who gave them this right). I have actually fallen into this pit over and over, comparing my little achievements or the little things I do with the society standard and by my own self I rate myself a failure. Love, faith and hope… I am not sure I used all or whether love actually influenced me getting out of a slump. I do know that faith and hope were involved. This is really good Caleb.

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