I am guessing this space is for undiluted rants. No checking of English and what not because I just want to rant so excuse my language. Thank you very much!
So I attended a women program and everything seem chilled and stuff till the speakers started talking about how to do some things as a lady. How to be diplomatic in your speech, think before you talk, a man has an ego, don’t talk back or argue back bla bla bla (it might not have been in those exact statements but they implied that to me anyway).
I got a bit upset because here is a gathering of young ladies and married women with experience. The purpose of the program is to have better women, so men would be interested or so we can basically “lock down” a man with our good character but how often do men have conferences to tell them or teach them how to manage a relationship with a lady.
They keep on having all these programs, training the girls to be good and all that but what about the boys watching football matches, while girls are jumping from seminar to seminar? I’ve gotten too many talks on how to approach a man, how to be diplomatic, how to play on his pride, how to use their ego against them to get what we want, how to be more understanding of the workings of the mind of a man. Can’t someone just be direct and not be seen as rude or disrespectful? Why should I treat a man or relate with a man with so much care but the guy just says things as he feels and then I should still come and be diplomatic about how I feel?
Helloooo!!!!!!! who is teaching these Men to understand the workings of my mind? Who is telling these men that sometimes you don’t take my responses literally? Who is teaching them to be men that I would like to “Lockdown”?
I honestly am beginning to get tired of the seminars, conferences and programs. You don’t really see so much on Men empowerment, Men in business conference, Married men meetings or single men meetings. What message are the women trying to send please? Is it that we just like social gatherings every now and then? Is it that we are slow learners and we must be reminded every time how to do things? Is it that men are better business managers so they don’t need empowerment too? They don’t need to know how to save or invest? Is it that the male specie already mastered the art of being perfect? Is it that “It is a Man’s world’ so the men need to pay less attention to a lot of these things? It can be annoying! Me too I want to go watch football match or something *rolling my eyes*.
I personally think a mixed program would do better. Let the girls hear from the guy’s point of view and let the guys hear from the lady’s point of view. I think I am tired of hearing from different married women’s point of view. My man is not your husband so how will your rule book work for me? Because one thing makes you happy and satisfied doesn’t make it a must for me to be satisfied with that thing too. Because you tolerate some things in the name of being patient and being a respectful submissive partner doesn’t mean I should or I can. Because your man acted one way when you did something doesn’t mean my man would act same way.
Excuse me but right now I feel like all these just makes one sex look more/less important than the other. I just want to be an open book to my man and he should be same with me. I don’t want to think or calculate before presenting a case to my man. I don’t want my environment to make me feel like I have a lot to learn or that I should be more concerned about somethings and he shouldn’t. I can go on and on but this is making me angrier and I am also hungry, so I will stop typing now to look for food… Hopefully no one upsets me in this mood I’m in or you are about to get another rant!